Why We Had a Secret Wedding

Friday, 6 December 2019

First off, I'm M A R R I E D.

Myself and my HUSBAND (will that ever feel natural to say?) tied the knot a couple of weeks ago, and we kept the whole thing super hush-hush. In fact, the only people who knew were our closest family and about 4 friends. There was no mention of it to people we had no interest in being there, and there wasn't a single thing said about it on social media.

Buy why so secret?

I feel like a lot of people assume it's money related or that we just don't like anyone (lol), but actually, it's nothing to do with either of those things.

I've just never dreamed of a big wedding. I think it's stereotypical to assume that little girls dream of horse-drawn carriages, huge princess-like wedding dresses, 7 tier cakes, ginormous churches and dancing into the night at wedding receptions. And all that stuff is amazing, if that's what you want, but I never have. I've always known I wanted a super small, super intimate, fuss free wedding.

When all is said and done, I've never felt comfortable being centre of attention, and have always felt anxious and awkward when the spot light is solely on me.

Both myself and my HUSBAND (honestly, still feels bizarre), are both very low-key people. We both have small social circles and whilst he has a smaller family than I do, I'm not overly close with most of mine. In total there were 17 people at our wedding, and that was enough for the both of us. It felt like the people who we truely wanted there were there, and there was no pressure to impress people we aren't particularly close to.

Don't get me wrong, I love going to bigger weddings, mostly because the focus isn't on me. I love seeing people really go to town on their wedding day. I love the extravagance of it all, but I also love that my wedding wasn't like that.

Our wedding felt incredibly right for us as a couple and it felt like a celebration of our family. It felt like it was exactly what we both wanted. I'm a firm believer of not giving into social expectations and doing what's best for you, and keeping our wedding a secret for over a year was bloody hard, but oh so very worth it.

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